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All about Parenting Toddlers, Issue #024 - Getting kids to listen and Teaching children through play
April 01, 2004
Shaping the life of your precious onesAll about Parenting Toddlers
1st April 2004
Welcome to another issue of All about Parenting Toddlers .
In This Issue:
1. Getting Kids To Listen
One of the hardest parts of parenting is getting our kids to listen to us, and then, of course, getting them to do what we ask! If you remember to use a few important skills this job will be much easier for you.
Think before you speak.
Be very specific.
Instead, be clear and specific. State your requests in a way that will not be misunderstood "Please put your shoes and coat on and get in the car " or "Please hang up your clothes and put your books on the shelf. " or "Sit here and use a quiet inside voice."
Control your emotions.
Studies show that most of our communication is conveyed through our presentation (body language, tone of voice, etc.) Kids will focus on your emotions, and dismiss your words. Instead keep your voice even and calm, and your words clear and specific to get better results. To do this, remember to think first, determine exactly what you want, and make your words convey a tone of authority.
Get up close and personal.
It will take practice to master these skills. Simply reading this article will not change your style. You will need to remind yourself of what you are trying to do, and keep your goals fresh in your mind. Its important to give yourself time to learn how to use these ideas, and to be kind and forgiving to yourself when you make mistakes. None of us are born knowing how to parent. Its a tough job, but with a few new skills and enough practice you'll be successful!
Wish you could work from *home* and spend more time with your toddler/young children? Here are
some of the things you could do right from the comfort of your home …..
By the National Association for the Education of Young Children
We have learned so much recently about the importance of play for young children that many families may overlook how meaningful work can also nurture development.
Young children flourish when allowed to enter the world of real work that surrounds them - from picking up toys or feeding the cat to grating carrots for salad. In the company of family or other adults, children eagerly engage in work. They want to 'help' with the pursuits of adults, and this work can be a crucial part of their early learning.
If you shield young children from a whole category of activity simply because it is called 'work' and not 'play,' you may be limiting their developmental opportunities.
On the other hand, if you invite children to participate in work and play, you give them many more ways to grow and learn.
Through work that is meaningful and a real contribution to the family or group, even young children can gain a sense of purpose, and come to feel more a part of the family. With proper adult supervision, there are many types of chores that families can consider for young children, which can help them begin learning about responsibility, independence and caring for themselves.
Here are a few examples:
Gathering, preparing, and cooking food
Caring for younger children
Caring for animals
In all of these activities, it's important to remember several points:
~ Keep in mind what your children can accomplish, and how much you need to supervise to make sure the activity is safe.
By matching your expectations to their abilities, encouraging and approving their efforts, and allowing plenty of time for the performance of each task, you can give your young children many opportunities to learn and grow through work.
A carefully designed mix of play that empahsizes physical skills like movement, coordination, gross motor skills and mental skills such as colors, numbers, etc.
Latest updates on Parenting Toddlers
The Parenting Toddlers website is constantly being updated with more information. Below are the latest additions :
Simple toddler games ideas
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